When is the right time?

Every girl develops at her own pace, but a good moment to start the conversation about underwear is when you notice the breast buds beginning to grow. The need for a bra usually appears between the ages of 8 and 10 (often around grades 3–4), though some 7–8-year-olds may ask for a sports top just “for fun” or to feel more grown up — in that case, soft cotton beginner tops are perfect.

A bra becomes necessary when:

• she starts feeling discomfort while moving,

• the breasts are visible under clothing and it makes her feel self-conscious,

• she needs support during PE classes.

The most important thing is to listen to your child and make the decision together. Shopping together for a soft, unpadded top or bra helps build trust and makes this new stage feel natural.

How to find the right size?

A good fit prevents discomfort and supports healthy development.

1. Underbust measurement – measure snugly on an exhale, keeping the tape even around the body.

2. Bust measurement – take it at the fullest part of the chest, loosely, without flattening.

3. Check the brand’s size chart (sizes vary between manufacturers).

How to tell if a bra fits well:

• The band lies flat and even (it provides most of the support),

• The cups fully cover the breast without pressure or gaps (ideally soft and unpadded),

• The straps don’t dig into the skin,

• the whole bra feels almost unnoticeable.

How to talk to your daughter?

Approach the topic with empathy and respect. During the conversation:

• Normalize the changes – puberty is a natural process,

• highlight the diversity of breasts (different shapes, sizes, possible asymmetry),

• explain the purpose of a bra: support, discretion, and greater confidence,

• acknowledge the emotional aspect – it’s a step toward growing up.

Parental tips: listen, don’t shame, don’t dismiss, and use shopping together as an opportunity to talk.

Common mistakes and how to avoid them

Size: buying “to grow into” or too small, without trying on.
Type: choosing padded or underwired bras at the start.
Fashion over comfort: the priority should always be comfort.
Communication: not talking about it or forcing the child before she’s ready.

How to avoid this? Always try on before buying, choose soft fabrics, talk with your daughter, and seek professional advice in-store.

Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ)

At what age should you start?
Usually around 8–10 years old, when breast buds appear. Younger children may want a top earlier — that’s fine if it comes from them.

Which bra to start with?
Tops, bralettes, or soft sports bras made of cotton, without underwire or padding.

How to measure the size?
Measure the underbust (snugly, on an exhale) and the bust (loosely), then check the brand’s size chart.

Should the first bra be padded?
No. The best choice is soft, unpadded cups or simple tops.

What are the signs of puberty?
Breast budding, pubic and underarm hair, a growth spurt, and eventually the first period (the sequence and timing vary individually).

Summary

The first bra is a natural step between the ages of 8–10, depending on the signs of puberty and the child’s individual needs. What matters most: the right timing, proper fit, soft, wire-free styles, cotton, and open communication. Together, these make wearing underwear comfortable, build confidence, and help embrace change in a positive way.